Comments on Our Seven Qtpies: I think it is time for another poll

I just thnk it sound freaky! I have 5 girls and t...

2009-10-25T08:22:25.468-05:00

I just thnk it sound freaky! I have 5 girls and there is no way I would do that. is the Mom trying to vicarously live thru her daughter? I would definitely say something and not encourage the relationship with the daughter either. what about the boy? is not bothered by all the attention from the mom? and what does the dad think?

Well, if she were to level with her that she's not...

2009-10-21T21:14:48.482-05:00

Well, if she were to level with her that she's not comfortable with the way things are as she sees them, and reason with her as one adult to another, then one of two things should happen. A) She says "Oh, you're right. I didn't see it like that"/"Well, I'm sorry that I made you uncomfortable. I don't want that." and back off to a healthy level. Or B)She'll blow her off and it becomes clear that, at the very least, now it's something to worry about.
Further, I agree wit Workship 100%.

I'd ask the mom to back-off. Now. Nicely. If the...

2009-10-20T08:12:11.303-05:00

I'd ask the mom to back-off. Now. Nicely.
If the daughter does eventually like the teen, she doesn't need her mom having a closer relationship with her future husband, than she has. She shouldn't have that pressure of thinking she "has" to like this guy because her mom does, and they've been in contact for so long.
How is the teen going to feel like a man, and the leader in the relationship (eventually) if the girl's mom is doing all the leading for him?
Just my thoughts and opinions.

That's a tough one! Some women just can't accept t...

2009-10-19T18:14:19.211-05:00

That's a tough one! Some women just can't accept the fact that either a)They can't micro-manage their children's lives or b)They aren't a teenager anymore.

I think I might try to sort of mention it off-handed first and see if she gets the hint.